This feeling of unworthiness occurs anytime we feel we can\u2019t do something we should be able to do. The challenge, of course, is that often we have a completely unfair rule for determining whether we\u2019re inadequate or not. First, understand the message inadequacy is giving you.
\nThe message is that you don\u2019t presently have a level of skill necessary for the task at hand. It\u2019s telling you that you need more information, understanding, strategies, tools or confidence.
\n1) Simply ask yourself, \u201cIs this really an appropriate emotion for me to feel in this situation? Am I really inadequate, or do I have to change the way I\u2019m perceiving things?\u201d Maybe you\u2019ve convinced yourself that in order to feel adequate, you have to go out on the dance floor and outdo Michael Jackson. This is probably an inappropriate perception.
\nIf your feeling is justified, the message of inadequacy is that you need to find a way to do something better than you\u2019ve done it before.
\nThe solution in this case is also obvious:
\n2) Whenever you feel inadequate, appreciate the encouragement to improve. Remind yourself that you\u2019re not \u201cperfect,\u201d and that you don\u2019t need to be. With this realization, you can begin to feel adequate the moment you decide to commit yourself to CANI!\u2122\u2014constant and never-ending improvement in this area.
\n3) Find a role model\u2014someone who\u2019s effective in the area in which you feel inadequate\u2014and get some coaching from them. Just the process of deciding to master this area of your life and making even the smallest amount of progress will turn a person who\u2019s inadequate into a person who\u2019s learning. This emotion is critical, because when someone feels inadequate, they tend to fall into the trap of learned helplessness, and they begin to see the problem as being a permanent one with themselves. There\u2019s no greater lie you could tell yourself. You\u2019re not inadequate. You may be untrained or unskilled in a particular area, but you\u2019re not inadequate. The capability for greatness in anything is within you even now.
\nTony Robbins. \u201cAwaken the Giant Within.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
This feeling of unworthiness occurs anytime we feel we can\u2019t do something we should be able to do. The challenge, of course, is that often we have a completely unfair rule for determining whether we\u2019re inadequate or not. First, understand the message inadequacy is giving you. The message is that you don\u2019t presently have a …<\/p>\n