Many of us sabotage ourselves when we decide we want something by doing everything we can to ensure we don\u2019t get it.<\/em><\/strong> Sound familiar? Although self-sabotage is a subconscious behavior, we can get a handle on it.<\/p>\n\n\nThere are many reasons that you might sabotage yourself. It\u2019s an extremely common behavior, rooted in a fear of the unknown. If you\u2019ve immersed yourself in mediocrity, the idea of greatness may be frightening. Ask yourself if you\u2019re satisfied with your life.<\/p>\n\n\n
Find out why you may self-sabotage:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\nControl.<\/strong> You might self-sabotage because you have a need to be in control of your circumstances.<\/em><\/strong> The easiest and most certain way to stay in control is to maintain the status quo.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\nIf you put your all into something, you run the risk of becoming vulnerable. Fear gets the best of you and you self-sabotage.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nLow self-esteem. <\/strong>Do you feel unworthy of greatness?<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nFor whatever reason, you may have decided that happiness ought to be forever beyond your reach.<\/em><\/strong> This is a self-limiting idea, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nExcitement. <\/strong>Perhaps you undermine your efforts because you\u2019re seeking excitement. You feel the need to remain in a constant state of turmoil to distract yourself from painful memories or alleviate boredom.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nIf you see yourself in any of these descriptions, fear not: there are steps you can take to put yourself on the path toward self-mastery.<\/p>\n\n\n
Consider this process for defeating your self-sabotage:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\nObserve your behavior. <\/strong>First off, it\u2019s essential that you begin to observe yourself. You can effectively do this by creating a self-sabotage journal. Make a journal entry every time you realize that you\u2019ve sabotaged yourself.<\/em><\/strong> Describe the setting, circumstances, and end result. Avoid over-analyzing.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\nMost often, a person\u2019s true intentions are most evident in their actions, rather than their words.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nStrive to be an impersonal observer in your journal. Eventually, you\u2019ll gain a better understanding of your motives in certain situations.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nEnvision success. <\/strong>Keep in mind that success is neither black nor white. Cultivate the habit of envisioning what success means to you and remember how it feels to achieve it.<\/em><\/strong> If you do this consistently, you may find that what you envision changes over time.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nBegin to see success as an integral part of your future, but realize there will still be challenges. Just like everyone else, you\u2019ll still have to pay taxes and have relationship issues.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nLet go of the notion of perfection. <\/strong>As you visualize success, are you still thinking that success equals perfection? If so, it\u2019s time to realize that nobody is perfect.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nThis is what George Bernard Shaw would refer to as \u201cdoublethink.\u201d Perfection and life are mutually exclusive because perfection is unattainable. Your subconscious won\u2019t allow you to achieve success if you associate success with the impossible task of being perfect.<\/em><\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nThink of your subconscious as a computer. It doesn\u2019t know how to execute a command called \u201cdo the impossible.\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\nIf you associate success with fear, your subconscious will fight you the entire way. Why? Because its primary function is to protect you from perceived threats.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n Give yourself permission to anticipate success with excitement. Perhaps you\u2019ve been sending your subconscious the message, \u201cDon\u2019t give me success!\u201d So, let\u2019s put your self-sabotaging behaviors in the past!<\/p>\n\n\n
Embrace the good life you deserve by picturing yourself as successful, and then refuse to talk yourself out of going for it.<\/em><\/strong> The journey to your ideal life starts now!<\/p>\n\n\nwww.LifeSomeday.com<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Download free PDF version of this article! Self-sabotage is a uniquely human behavior. Many of us sabotage ourselves when we decide we want something by doing everything we can to ensure we don\u2019t get it. Sound familiar? Although self-sabotage is a subconscious behavior, we can get a handle on it. There are many reasons that …<\/p>\n
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